Informing a male that there are feelings floating around in a personal universe just for them is a complex and fragile procedure. The supplies for telling someone of these feeling vary depending upon the situation, however for this technique supplies include a love interest, a fictional or nonfictional stud, form of communication, and a friend for support.
Step one is finding a stud. A stud is person or character looked upon as someone that others strive to become. A male that knows where he is going in life, and could have any lady marry him in a heartbeat. The stud can be found in a book, a movie, personal experience, or any other dimension in life. A stud has to mean something on a personal level. Once the stud is chosen get to know him from the inside out. While doing this make sure the love interest knows about the stud. Tell the love interest to read the book, watch the movie, get to know the stud, etc. by bringing it up in casual conversation.
Step two is making sure the love interest knows about the stud. Suggest to the love interest reading the book or watching the movie that the stud is in, or tell him to get to know or research the stud in person by bringing the stud up in casual conversation. Bringing up the stud in casual conversation is simple. Ask the love interest if he has ever met the stud, watched the movie, read the book, etc. and wait for the response. If they have not, recommend it to them, and if they have move on to the next step.
Step three, tell the love interest what makes the stud a stud. Explain the characteristics and qualities of the stud that put him above all others. Get his opinion on how he feels about the stud by simply asking, “Is he a stud or what?” and see what the love interest has to say. He will most likely answer with a simple “yes”, so from there you move on to step four.
Step four is the climax of the process, the big shebang. After discussing the stud, relate a quality of the love interest to a quality of the stud. Give a couple examples of how the love interest is similar to the stud allowing the love interest to feel like a stud himself. As the love interest is feeling all high and mighty about himself just through in there that he in fact could be a stud. At this point he should know that there are those feelings floating around in a personal universe just for him, and as he is realizing what that means tell him that he is the new stud.
The final step in this process is letting the feelings go. Let out the words “Be my stud? Check yes or no.” and let him take it from there. He will then proceed to state his opinion on why he should or should not take up the offer in becoming the stud, but either way a task has been accomplished that many fail to conquer.
Do not make the process more difficult than need be but understand the complexity of the procedure and its fragileness. Follow the five steps as listed; find a stud, inform the love interest about the stud, explain how the stud became the stud, relate the qualities of the stud and love interest, and finally ask the love interest to become the new stud. Follow the five simple yet challenging steps and there is no way to fail. Whether the answer wanted is received or not be proud of the accomplishment at hand. Just because the current love interest does not accept the call of the stud does not mean that there will never be one who will. Good luck on informing that male love interest on how he is to be the future stud, and never give up the dream of having the stud.
30 September 2010
A Word
23 March 2004
This was the best birthday ever! I am finally one year away from being an adult, and now I can go watch those R rated movies with my new boyfriend. That was my favorite part of the whole day. Chris came over for the family birthday dinner and he had some surprises for me. He made me a bear that is dressed up in a tux, he brought me flowers, colorful daisies, and the best of it all was when he asked me to be his girlfriend while we were out under the stars. Of course the only thing to do was to accept with the seal a kiss. I just know we are going to last a lifetime and live happily ever after.
20 July 2004
Chris called me today. I tried to act like I haven’t thought about him sense that night back in April, but I am pretty sure he could tell I was lying. He said he was sorry and that he wanted to go out sometime to catch up. I want so badly for him to be telling the truth but I cannot help but think it is another lie. I wish I could be really mad at him and just tell him off; I know that it is a blessing that I lack the urge to do that though. I was devastated when he told me he had been cheating. Did he ever even like me in the first place, or was I just a cover up, a back-up plan? It does not matter now, what has happened happened and I need to move on. What if it truly was a mistake though and he is truly sorry; we can work through it. Things will be different this time.
1 August 2004
Chris took me to a Saints game tonight, and it was so much fun! In the middle of the third we made a touchdown and he kissed me. It was strange at first because it has been so long, but it was nice to have him in my arms again. I knew everything was going to work out. I know he leaves for college in a week, but he is not going very far away. We are going to have our happily ever after after all.
10 December 2004
Still no word from Chris, and I really thought this time would be different; he was the one. We had talked about going to school together and getting married. We were going to have kids and grow old together. Why did I ever believe him?
23 August 2005
Dad has never been one for storms, so I cannot help but wonder why we live here in Louisiana. I know it has to do with his job but seeing him get worked up every time it starts to rain just adds to my stress level. Does he not realize that I have bigger problems in my life than the weather? I have school and work. I have the dogs to take care of, I have to taxi Sommer around, and then there is Chris. I do not see much of Chris these days which is a good thing, but I cannot help but miss him deep down. Either way I wish my dad would find another job. A job where the sun always shines and there is not a cloud in sight. Maybe the Sahara Dessert would be better.
25 August 2005
Chris called. I did not think I was ever going to hear from him again, so this came as kind of an unpleasant surprise. He sounded like Dad, acting as if this storm was going to be so much worse than anything else we have endured. Why does it matter what happens to me anyways; he does not care. I nicely informed him that he meant nothing to me and to just leave me and my family alone. I said that we would be perfectly fine and not to act like he cared. I am not sure but it sounded like he started to cry. He probably just had a cold. Anyways, he said he had something to give to me, but I told him I did not want it. He did not listen though. He came by the house and gave a letter to my dad for me. I have not read it, and I do not want to. I think I might just leave it outside to blow away with this “horrible storm” that Chris and his family are running away from.
30 August 2005
I cannot watch the television any longer, because it just puts me in tears. I know I said I did not like living there, but the truth is that is our home. It scares me to think about my friends and everyone that we know. I wonder if they took the warning and left or if they had the same thought process as me and saw leaving as pointless. I am glad Dad is not a storm person; if he thought any differently we might be amongst the rubbish that is all under water in our little one story home. The only person that I knew for sure was safe was Chris; there was some comfort in that. I know I told him I did not care but it was a lie. I love him no matter what he does, and I know that God has given me the love for him for a reason.
27 August 2006
We came back to our home today, or what is left of it. I watched out of the car window holding Sommer’s hand as she wept. I tried to be strong for her but it did not last very long. We reached a place where we could get out of the car and walk around, but there was an unsettling feeling in the air. Trash was all over the ground still with the stench of mildew and wetness. Over in the far corner of the house I was an envelope that looked as if it was hanging on for dear life through the monster they called Katrina. We were not supposed to touch anything but there was something drawing me to this piece of debris. When I picked it up my name was barely readable on the front of it and my heart sank. I quickly put the envelope on my pocket and walked away. I have not read it yet because I am scared at what it might be. Maybe tomorrow.
30 August 2006
Chris’s mom called me. They have not seen him sense they left a year ago. I thought Chris left with them. He said they were going north for safety. I have not stopped crying sense I talked to his mom. She said they are hoping he will return soon but I cannot help but think that something bad has happened. I asked her why Chris was not with them when they left and she told me he said he had something important to do first but that he would see them soon. She asked me if I knew what he might have been doing and I told her I did not. I could not have been the important thing he was talking about. He brought that letter by but that was not important. The letter; I put it outside to blow away with the storm. That is the letter I found the first day we were back. Am I the reason Chris is missing?
30 August 2006
August 24 2005
Samantha,
I need to have a word. I've neglected you and I'm so sorry. You have done nothing but care about me ever since we've met, and it's time for me to begin acting like a man and start living up to my end of the bargain. You are the strongest person I know; even when I was such a terrible person to you, you continued to have faith in me and I love you so much for that. Now it's time for me to be there and have faith in you. You are such a blessing to everyone you come in contact with, me included, and anytime you need someone to lean on, I want you to know that from now on, you can count on me being there. You have changed my life for the better, and now it's my turn to do the same thing for you. I love you with all of my heart and if you are going to stay and endure this storm then I am going to be here as well. I want you to know that you are the only thing that matters to me at this point. I know you say you do not care but I know you better than that. We are going to get through this and I am going to give you the happily ever after you have always wanted.
Love, Chris
5 September 2006
Death. Darkness. Guilt. Sorrow. Chris is dead and it is my fault. If I would have just read the letter I would have known he was still there while we were fleeing the storm. His parents will never look at me the same again, and I cannot blame them. They just buried their 19 year old son because he chose to love me.
This was the best birthday ever! I am finally one year away from being an adult, and now I can go watch those R rated movies with my new boyfriend. That was my favorite part of the whole day. Chris came over for the family birthday dinner and he had some surprises for me. He made me a bear that is dressed up in a tux, he brought me flowers, colorful daisies, and the best of it all was when he asked me to be his girlfriend while we were out under the stars. Of course the only thing to do was to accept with the seal a kiss. I just know we are going to last a lifetime and live happily ever after.
20 July 2004
Chris called me today. I tried to act like I haven’t thought about him sense that night back in April, but I am pretty sure he could tell I was lying. He said he was sorry and that he wanted to go out sometime to catch up. I want so badly for him to be telling the truth but I cannot help but think it is another lie. I wish I could be really mad at him and just tell him off; I know that it is a blessing that I lack the urge to do that though. I was devastated when he told me he had been cheating. Did he ever even like me in the first place, or was I just a cover up, a back-up plan? It does not matter now, what has happened happened and I need to move on. What if it truly was a mistake though and he is truly sorry; we can work through it. Things will be different this time.
1 August 2004
Chris took me to a Saints game tonight, and it was so much fun! In the middle of the third we made a touchdown and he kissed me. It was strange at first because it has been so long, but it was nice to have him in my arms again. I knew everything was going to work out. I know he leaves for college in a week, but he is not going very far away. We are going to have our happily ever after after all.
10 December 2004
Still no word from Chris, and I really thought this time would be different; he was the one. We had talked about going to school together and getting married. We were going to have kids and grow old together. Why did I ever believe him?
23 August 2005
Dad has never been one for storms, so I cannot help but wonder why we live here in Louisiana. I know it has to do with his job but seeing him get worked up every time it starts to rain just adds to my stress level. Does he not realize that I have bigger problems in my life than the weather? I have school and work. I have the dogs to take care of, I have to taxi Sommer around, and then there is Chris. I do not see much of Chris these days which is a good thing, but I cannot help but miss him deep down. Either way I wish my dad would find another job. A job where the sun always shines and there is not a cloud in sight. Maybe the Sahara Dessert would be better.
25 August 2005
Chris called. I did not think I was ever going to hear from him again, so this came as kind of an unpleasant surprise. He sounded like Dad, acting as if this storm was going to be so much worse than anything else we have endured. Why does it matter what happens to me anyways; he does not care. I nicely informed him that he meant nothing to me and to just leave me and my family alone. I said that we would be perfectly fine and not to act like he cared. I am not sure but it sounded like he started to cry. He probably just had a cold. Anyways, he said he had something to give to me, but I told him I did not want it. He did not listen though. He came by the house and gave a letter to my dad for me. I have not read it, and I do not want to. I think I might just leave it outside to blow away with this “horrible storm” that Chris and his family are running away from.
30 August 2005
I cannot watch the television any longer, because it just puts me in tears. I know I said I did not like living there, but the truth is that is our home. It scares me to think about my friends and everyone that we know. I wonder if they took the warning and left or if they had the same thought process as me and saw leaving as pointless. I am glad Dad is not a storm person; if he thought any differently we might be amongst the rubbish that is all under water in our little one story home. The only person that I knew for sure was safe was Chris; there was some comfort in that. I know I told him I did not care but it was a lie. I love him no matter what he does, and I know that God has given me the love for him for a reason.
27 August 2006
We came back to our home today, or what is left of it. I watched out of the car window holding Sommer’s hand as she wept. I tried to be strong for her but it did not last very long. We reached a place where we could get out of the car and walk around, but there was an unsettling feeling in the air. Trash was all over the ground still with the stench of mildew and wetness. Over in the far corner of the house I was an envelope that looked as if it was hanging on for dear life through the monster they called Katrina. We were not supposed to touch anything but there was something drawing me to this piece of debris. When I picked it up my name was barely readable on the front of it and my heart sank. I quickly put the envelope on my pocket and walked away. I have not read it yet because I am scared at what it might be. Maybe tomorrow.
30 August 2006
Chris’s mom called me. They have not seen him sense they left a year ago. I thought Chris left with them. He said they were going north for safety. I have not stopped crying sense I talked to his mom. She said they are hoping he will return soon but I cannot help but think that something bad has happened. I asked her why Chris was not with them when they left and she told me he said he had something important to do first but that he would see them soon. She asked me if I knew what he might have been doing and I told her I did not. I could not have been the important thing he was talking about. He brought that letter by but that was not important. The letter; I put it outside to blow away with the storm. That is the letter I found the first day we were back. Am I the reason Chris is missing?
30 August 2006
August 24 2005
Samantha,
I need to have a word. I've neglected you and I'm so sorry. You have done nothing but care about me ever since we've met, and it's time for me to begin acting like a man and start living up to my end of the bargain. You are the strongest person I know; even when I was such a terrible person to you, you continued to have faith in me and I love you so much for that. Now it's time for me to be there and have faith in you. You are such a blessing to everyone you come in contact with, me included, and anytime you need someone to lean on, I want you to know that from now on, you can count on me being there. You have changed my life for the better, and now it's my turn to do the same thing for you. I love you with all of my heart and if you are going to stay and endure this storm then I am going to be here as well. I want you to know that you are the only thing that matters to me at this point. I know you say you do not care but I know you better than that. We are going to get through this and I am going to give you the happily ever after you have always wanted.
Love, Chris
5 September 2006
Death. Darkness. Guilt. Sorrow. Chris is dead and it is my fault. If I would have just read the letter I would have known he was still there while we were fleeing the storm. His parents will never look at me the same again, and I cannot blame them. They just buried their 19 year old son because he chose to love me.
I'm Not Afraid
Music, according to Webster, is the science or art of ordering tones or sounds in succession, in combination, and in temporal relationships to produce a composition having unity and continuity. Maya Angelou once said that music was her refuge. She said she could crawl into the space between the notes and curl back into loneliness. It has been said that music is the sound of feelings. To two famous rappers music is life. Lecrae and Eminem share in their passion while having both put their hearts and souls into their music, both writing about and for their true love, and both growing up in an unstable childhood; however getting to where they are today was very different for both rappers starting in their teen years while progressing through what faith they had and the challenge of support at the end of the day.
Eminem and Lecrae both put their hearts and souls into their music. Neither artist holds back their passion and desire to let the audience know what is going through their minds. Though each is passionate about different takes on life, both talk deeply about becoming a person that makes a difference or an imprint on a life whether be someone else’s or his/her own. While both artists write about life, Eminem writes about two things, himself and his family which consist of his daughter Hailie and wife Kim. Lecrae writes his music about his faith in God and living a Christian life. In both rappers’ music however, there is always an inspiration. Eminem’s song I’m Not Afraid is much like Lecrae’s Jump as they both talk about taking a leap of faith and standing up against whatever is stopping the audience member from pressing forward in righteousness. The passion that these rappers share with their music comes from different experiences in life starting in their childhoods.
Both Eminem and Lecrae grew up with a single mother and had very unstable childhoods. Eminem’s dad walked out on him and his mother when he was too young to remember. He and his mom were constantly moving around; therefore Slim Shady was never at the same school for very long. The longest he was in school in one city was three months which made it very difficult to build relationships. After failing the ninth grade for the third time in a row, Marshall Mathers decided to drop out and pursue his dreams of being a rapper. He was seventeen at the time. Lecrae, whose father also walked out on him and his mother, grew up in a rough neighborhood. His uncle was always his inspiration with his tattoos, drugs and guns. Lecrae looked up to his uncle as a role model in becoming a man. His only dream for his life was to become the gang member; however Lecrae says he knew his ways were unfulfilling while he chased all the wrong things for satisfaction. At the age of nineteen, Lecrae was born again and became a Christ follower.
The rappers’ faith is what sets them the farthest apart to this day. Accepting Christ was the biggest step in life for Lecrae, and that very step in life is exactly why he is where he is today. Lecrae gives all of the honor and glory to God in every song that he writes. Getting to the point of where he is today was a long process but Lecrae continues to believe and tell others that God is the one that took care of it all. While Lecrae uses his music to tell the Lord’s great blessings and role in his life, Eminem uses his music to tell how his life has come along and how he is still fighting what seems a never ending battle. Lecrae has found his satisfaction in life even though he knows the journey is not over until the Lord calls him home. Eminem however, is still in a constant battle with the world and the obstacles thrown at him in search of satisfaction. While fighting the world for satisfaction, Eminem constantly fights the battle of support at the end of each day. Because of his race, Marshall Mathers’ career choice has been looked down upon from day one. Even being the talented artist that he is, it was a constant struggle for him to overcome the stereotypes and judgments. Not only does the world in general look down upon him, but it is a daily struggle with his family to receive support. In Eminem’s music he raps about how his wife, Kim, was constantly putting him down and leaving him. While neither member of the relationship has perfect scores in life, Kim has added to the obstacles of Marshall’s success. Unlike the lack of support Eminem has received, Lecrae has been blessed with a loving wife and family that support him one hundred percent. Not only is there a difference in family support, but the support of the world has been different as well. Lecrae’s image as a person has been viewed by the world as an overall good person, therefore receiving support from almost all who listen. Eminem on the other hand is not viewed the same way due to his violence and profanity in his music. Beliefs on whether or not the difference in support is morally correct is dependent upon the audience; however either way the outlook is viewed, both artist have earned and fought for where they are today.
Eminem and Lecrae are both extremely talented rap artists who deserve every bit of fame they have received. Both have a passion for what they do and do not care what it takes to get their messages out. While both have had some of the same rough patches in life and have come to the same place in their careers, Eminem and Lecrae are two very different people with very different life styles. It does not make one better than the other, and it does not make one more deserving. The similarities and differences in the lives of these rappers only proves that being human has its problems; but what matters is what that person decides to do with what is handed them.
Eminem and Lecrae both put their hearts and souls into their music. Neither artist holds back their passion and desire to let the audience know what is going through their minds. Though each is passionate about different takes on life, both talk deeply about becoming a person that makes a difference or an imprint on a life whether be someone else’s or his/her own. While both artists write about life, Eminem writes about two things, himself and his family which consist of his daughter Hailie and wife Kim. Lecrae writes his music about his faith in God and living a Christian life. In both rappers’ music however, there is always an inspiration. Eminem’s song I’m Not Afraid is much like Lecrae’s Jump as they both talk about taking a leap of faith and standing up against whatever is stopping the audience member from pressing forward in righteousness. The passion that these rappers share with their music comes from different experiences in life starting in their childhoods.
Both Eminem and Lecrae grew up with a single mother and had very unstable childhoods. Eminem’s dad walked out on him and his mother when he was too young to remember. He and his mom were constantly moving around; therefore Slim Shady was never at the same school for very long. The longest he was in school in one city was three months which made it very difficult to build relationships. After failing the ninth grade for the third time in a row, Marshall Mathers decided to drop out and pursue his dreams of being a rapper. He was seventeen at the time. Lecrae, whose father also walked out on him and his mother, grew up in a rough neighborhood. His uncle was always his inspiration with his tattoos, drugs and guns. Lecrae looked up to his uncle as a role model in becoming a man. His only dream for his life was to become the gang member; however Lecrae says he knew his ways were unfulfilling while he chased all the wrong things for satisfaction. At the age of nineteen, Lecrae was born again and became a Christ follower.
The rappers’ faith is what sets them the farthest apart to this day. Accepting Christ was the biggest step in life for Lecrae, and that very step in life is exactly why he is where he is today. Lecrae gives all of the honor and glory to God in every song that he writes. Getting to the point of where he is today was a long process but Lecrae continues to believe and tell others that God is the one that took care of it all. While Lecrae uses his music to tell the Lord’s great blessings and role in his life, Eminem uses his music to tell how his life has come along and how he is still fighting what seems a never ending battle. Lecrae has found his satisfaction in life even though he knows the journey is not over until the Lord calls him home. Eminem however, is still in a constant battle with the world and the obstacles thrown at him in search of satisfaction. While fighting the world for satisfaction, Eminem constantly fights the battle of support at the end of each day. Because of his race, Marshall Mathers’ career choice has been looked down upon from day one. Even being the talented artist that he is, it was a constant struggle for him to overcome the stereotypes and judgments. Not only does the world in general look down upon him, but it is a daily struggle with his family to receive support. In Eminem’s music he raps about how his wife, Kim, was constantly putting him down and leaving him. While neither member of the relationship has perfect scores in life, Kim has added to the obstacles of Marshall’s success. Unlike the lack of support Eminem has received, Lecrae has been blessed with a loving wife and family that support him one hundred percent. Not only is there a difference in family support, but the support of the world has been different as well. Lecrae’s image as a person has been viewed by the world as an overall good person, therefore receiving support from almost all who listen. Eminem on the other hand is not viewed the same way due to his violence and profanity in his music. Beliefs on whether or not the difference in support is morally correct is dependent upon the audience; however either way the outlook is viewed, both artist have earned and fought for where they are today.
Eminem and Lecrae are both extremely talented rap artists who deserve every bit of fame they have received. Both have a passion for what they do and do not care what it takes to get their messages out. While both have had some of the same rough patches in life and have come to the same place in their careers, Eminem and Lecrae are two very different people with very different life styles. It does not make one better than the other, and it does not make one more deserving. The similarities and differences in the lives of these rappers only proves that being human has its problems; but what matters is what that person decides to do with what is handed them.
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